Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Things A Pediatrician Should Never Say

"You'll do better with your second baby." Uhh... what do I say to that? Thanks?!

He did not listen to one thing I said... (here's the part where I'm just going to ramble about a doctor who didn't listen... it's really not worth reading. I'm sure you've been there before and this may not make sense. I just need to write out my frustration, then it will be gone and I don't have to think about it any more.)

I told him Caleb has had diarrhea for two months and wasn't really gaining weight until I stopped eating dairy two weeks ago. In five weeks he only gained one pound and in the past three weeks he has gained two and a half pounds. Now he has more normal poops unless I slip up and eat something I shouldn't, then he has diarrhea again. His response, "Does he poop regularly?" (He doesn't believe me about the dairy stuff btw)

At that point I pulled out the outfit Caleb had been wearing when we got to the doctor's office... "This is what happens if I eat something that bugs his stomach, he has diarrhea all over everything. That is usually a couple of hours after he cries in pain, brings his knees up to his stomach or arches his back as hard as he can (whichever feels better to him at the time), his stomach is a tight knot, and screams until the pain goes away."

* Funny tangent: I was checking in at the front desk and Caleb was sitting in his car seat on the floor and just let loose. The 10 year-old boy that heard Caleb started laughing and tried not to stare. And then Caleb just kept going. I knew at that point I was in trouble... I felt Caleb's back. Sure enough, soaked in poop. So I finished up the paperwork and then headed into the bathroom for damage control. I ended up having to wipe down a lot of the bathroom after I got Caleb situated... it was a messy one. *

"Does he sleep through the night?"
No, we tried having him cry it out like you said for five nights and he just cried all night. He's been sleeping a lot better over the past couple of weeks, meaning, last night he only woke up once every hour but was able to fall back asleep on his own (other than the two times I fed him).
"You need to just let him cry it out. In three nights I promise he'll be able to sleep through the night."
It didn't work very well last time.
"You need to settle down. It's hard for the mommies to let their babies cry. Just do it, three nights."

"Does he take naps?"
I try to have him take 3 naps a day. One in the morning, one around noon and one in the afternoon.
"Well, maybe he's getting too much sleep during the day."
His naps are usually between 30-50 minutes.
"So he's a cat-napper, he must sleep well at night then."
(Did he really just miss the last five minutes of our conversation?)
"Have him nap from 10-12 and then 3-4:30. Don't let the afternoon one go too long. Wake him up, otherwise he won't want to go to sleep at night."
I would love to have him sleep for two hours at a time, but he hasn't had a nap that long since he was four weeks old.

Anyway... Caleb is healthy and happy and handled his shots so well! I love him and will try to figure out how to help him with his tummy problems as best as I can. Hopefully a couple more weeks without dairy and then slowly adding different things back into my diet to see how he handles it. Maybe I'll try probiotics again... they helped my stomach issues but Caleb didn't seem to like it when I tried it... that may have been because I mixed the probiotic powder into my yogurt (dairy).

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Spit Bubbles and Scissor Kicks

 Thank you Honda for restoring my faith in you! After getting my car into the Honda dealership late Saturday afternoon, they finished it by Tuesday afternoon... new engine, new sun visors, new drive belt... and now she's as good as new. When I told Allen that she "purred like a kitten," he said that sounded too wimpy... so, for future reference, my car "roars like a lion." :)

This week Caleb and I got to go to play group. Allen was confused about why I was taking Caleb to a play group until I explained that moms need play group more than kids do, so we have other adults to talk to. All of the other moms that went had kids of playing age and they let me tag-along. Thanks!

On Saturday Allen got up early to play basketball at the church, while Caleb and I played at home. Here is a video of Caleb waiting patiently in his crib for me to come play with him. I love when he wakes up happy instead of crying!
Dad's back from basketball
Then Allen came home to shower and we headed back to the church to go to the baptism of one of the girls we teach on Sundays. It was a beautiful service and she was so excited.

Then Allen practiced the organ since he's been asked to play in Sacrament meeting next week, he was not so excited.

And then we got a kitchen table! and I am still so excited.

I found this table on craigslist and now we don't have to just use our little card table and can have more people over and have a place for them to sit and eat. I'll put a picture on next week.

Week Seventeen:

Look at that balance!
 ....you thought I was talking about Caleb... but see my legs (in the pajama pants I wear almost all day long) and now, be impressed because I reached over and took this picture 
Just chillin'
Caleb laughs more and more frequently. He thinks it's funny when I speak in a deep voice and I got a little bit of it on video.
Mom-to-Mom diapers do not stay on my child well... the bottom part gets heavy and slides out  and we get peed on.
Caleb has lots of fun blowing spit bubbles and razzing with his drool. I don't know if razzing is the right word, but that's what I call it. It even gets all over his face!
Caleb has decided that Mom makes a comfy couch
 Caleb is perfecting a scissor kick in the bath. He uses it to bring the rubber ducky up on his lap. He has done it for a few weeks now but we finally caught it on video.
This is how Caleb hangs out in his crib, sucking on his left hand and holding his toes with his right hand
 I have stopped reading to Caleb before he takes a nap. Routines don't work well for him. He figures out the routine leading up to his naps and starts crying as I begin getting him ready for naptime. I used dim the lights, hold him, give him his pacifier and rock him until he got tired... then place him in his crib to go to sleep.

Then he started crying as soon as I dimmed the lights, spat his pacifier out and squirmed while I held him and rocked him. Then I would sing "I am a Child of God" and soon he started crying when I sang that. I don't want him to hate reading, so we don't read before naps now. I just do something different every day now.
"I'm supposed to be taking a nap"
When we do read, he doesn't just reach for the book with his hands, he has to lift his feet up and grab the book with his feet as well. I'll get a picture or video of it sometime.

For some reason, Caleb does not want to sit in his bouncer. The lap/tray thing doesn't snap in place well and he has figured out how to lift it up and now squirms his way out of the bouncer. I don't know how he can figure it out so quickly! He is only in that bouncer for a total of maybe 15 minutes a day... this time I was just trying to make a sandwich and had to lift him back up three times. There is a five-point harness strap thing, but then he just fights the straps. Here's a video of him squirming in the bouncer.
"I don't want to be in this bouncer"
 We made pizza Friday night and had to make two separate pizzas since Allen didn't want a cheese-free one.
My dairy-free pizza... thanks for the pizza stone Mom and Dad Adams

Caleb and Dad before church
Watching the Super Bowl
 The rest of these pictures are from my iPod, which is why they aren't great quality. But there are some quality moments when I have the iPod more handy than my camera.
Smiley boy!
Blurry, constantly moving legs




Blow-out

When your mom's in the shower and your stomach starts to grow-el, diarrhea... diarrhea...
(Mom shouldn't have had that bite of ice cream last night)
Caleb has been spitting up more... there are some spots of evidence on his shirt and pants.
Caleb has enough hair to mess up
Dad's favorite part of bath time - lotioning Caleb up

Friday, February 3, 2012

"Are You Awake?"

I feel like such a mean mother as I sit here listening to Caleb cry... unfortunately, he inherited my sleeping gene.

He wants to keep going and going and going all day long and doesn't think he needs a nap. If he doesn't take a nap, he starts to get whiny and fussy and hyperactive, as you can see in this video of his overtired bath. If he does take a nap, it takes about 15 minutes for his brain and body to relax enough for him to drift off to sleep. Then he wakes up about 15 minutes later thinking it's time to go again and doesn't realize he needs sleep and should just allow himself to fall back to sleep.

Short tangent: At night, if I am not so overtired that I fall asleep while Allen and I say our prayers (an almost nightly occurrence that is pretty funny, considering the fact that I am the one who says our night prayers as a couple and I fall asleep while praying out loud, mid-sentence), then it takes me at least ten minutes longer than Allen to fall asleep and I will almost always whisper, "Are you awake?" If he's sleeping, he isn't disturbed. But even if he's almost asleep, he is nice and listens while I ask him some question or tell him about some little detail of the day that I am thinking about that is keeping me awake.

Back to Caleb: Sometimes I am his accomplice in short naps. When I go in to calm him down and get him to go back to sleep, he smiles up at me from the crib with the look that says, "I'm ready to play Mom!" I just don't have the heart to leave him to cry himself to sleep again... so I take him out and decide to try for a longer nap next time. That has happened twice today, so now after his twenty minute nap, I mustered up all of the courage that I could and went in, calmed him down and told him (even though he doesn't understand) that it's still nap time.
He was eating his fist, talking, smiling and playing with his foot when I went to get him back to sleep in the middle of nap number  two.
I am now watching him drift off to sleep on the baby monitor... he falls asleep, only to twitch and wake himself back up again, which begins the crying and head-tossing again for half a minute before he falls asleep again. If Allen were here, he'd help me to not give in to allow Caleb to get the sleep he needs. So here I sit, typing, listening and avoiding more cleaning...

...I gave in. Time for Caleb and I to play.

Monday, January 30, 2012

Milk, does it do a body good?

January 23-29, 2012

This week was week one for me of no dairy. We aren't just talking no lactose... we're talking, no eating it if the food as any artificial butter flavoring, whey protein in any form, etc. That means even no lactose-free products. I've had a suspicion that Caleb has problems with dairy but kept hoping his digestive tract would handle it better by three or four months old.

Finally, after reading my cousin Brynn's blog, I decided I should give it a try... Brynn, you may be wondering what in your blog inspired me... She said that she loved her daughter more than chocolate. I thought, "that's cute but any mom loves their child more than chocolate." Then the thought came, "Do I love my son more than chocolate, butter, ice cream, and milk?" I guess I do, because I am giving it up for the time being. Not going to lie though, it is hard! Much harder than I thought.

The good news: It is helping. Caleb does not wake up screaming in pain. He no longer has diarrhea (apparently he's had it for at least the last two months and I just thought it was normal... I now know what "normal" infant poop looks like).

The bad news: Because it's helping, no more dairy for Mom. I'll slowly try re-introducing different things into my diet after a week or two to see how he handles them.

On a different "milk" note: due to breastfeeding Caleb, milk is doing my body good! I keep losing my pregnancy weight without even trying. But because I haven't been exercising like I would like to (and couldn't exercise during my pregnancy) I have also lost a lot of muscle, and as a result, my pants are all getting to be too small. There could be worse problems. I didn't not believe the people who told me that pregnancy weight would melt off... 40 lbs later, I'm a believer.

Thanks to being dairy-free, Caleb has been sleeping better! For nap-time we read him a book and then let him talk to himself and fuss for 10-15 minutes and he almost always falls asleep. He's taking 2-3 naps a day now! I love this! This gives me close to an hour (three times a day) to do things that I want to do without holding him: shower, take a nap, clean, blog, start making dinner.

At night, he wakes up two-three times to eat (between 7 pm and 7 am) and a couple of other times just crying. This is great! I've heard it takes up to two weeks to get the cow proteins out of my system (for me to be clean) so hopefully he'll stop the other wake-ups soon.

Caleb found his feet this week and loves to grab them, stare at them and play with them. He pulls on his socks and holds onto his pants.

Caleb is still easily distracted, especially while eating. He will stop eating every couple of minutes to talk to the picture of Jesus in his room or arch his back to see the picture of Cat in the Hat on the wall or just to stare over at his crib. The worst is when Dad walks into the room while he's eating... if he was in the room when Caleb started eating, there's no problem. But when Dad walks in after work and Caleb hears him, he won't stop smiling and staring at Dad! (I can't complain about that one though, it's adorable!)

Caleb now turns into our kisses. When we go to give him a kiss on the cheek or on the nose, he turns his open mouth right at us and we get a slobbery, open mouth kiss.

He has enough hair to mess up! It's blonde so it doesn't show up in a lot of the pictures.

When we hold Caleb on our lap standing up, he now takes steps backwards.
Allen got on our roof this week to clean out our gutters before the big storm came in... they had never been cleaned out before and had enough dirt in them for weeds to be growing! That mean that they were not functioning as gutters should.

Caleb was scared of my blow dryer. I got my first (ever) blow dryer for Christmas this year and this is the first time Caleb has been in the bathroom when I used it. He did not like it! So, to keep him happy, I held him while blow drying my hair... I felt so talented that I took a picture of it!

On Saturday my car inexplicably died. No previous problems or symptoms (not sure what the car word for symptoms is) and then we were driving and Allen asked if I could smell the antifreeze. I said that all I could smell was the maple syrup at McDonald's we were driving past. After running a couple of errands, we were sitting at Arby's (don't eat there if you want to go dairy-free, everything has dairy in it except the soft drinks) and watched a puddle of antifreeze grow under the car.

We made it home with an overheating car and watched the rest of the antifreeze drip onto our driveway with no apparent place for it to be leaking from. A quick google search answered our questions... 2006-2009 Honda Civics have a defect: the engine block will crack and your car will be toast. You will be unable to drive it to the car shop and will have to have it towed. It was not recalled but they extended the warranty, so hopefully we'll have ol' blue back in a few days with a new engine, paid for by Honda.
We had some friends over for dinner on Sunday and Allen got a picture of Caleb and their daughter. I love how fascinated kids are with babies... even when they are still babies themselves!

kj

Arbor Day and Burglars

January 16-22, 2012
The only family updates are about things that happen on the weekend because during the week Allen goes to work and I stay home with Caleb. After work Allen has been studying for his actuarial exam in May. I'll get a picture of him studying in there one of these days. Other than that the only other thing that happened during the week was that I went to Activity Days on Thursday (do fun activities with 8-9 year-old girls at church twice a month). Oh, and Caleb and I were sick.
Going to the Arbor Day festivities
Saturday was exciting: it was Arbor Day so we went to The Woodlands' Arbor Day celebration. Caleb will enjoy it when he's older, but we got a bunch of free trees to plant!
Getting our trees to plant
But the real Saturday excitement happened that night. Caleb went to bed early, Allen and I watched a movie and were going to bed... perfect timing, as always, Caleb woke up so I went to feed him. His room was unusually bright and then Allen noticed people snooping in our backyard. It was the police. Our neighbors behind us had been robbed and the robbers hid the two iPads under our cement drain cover thing. They used the GPS to find out that the iPads were close-by and then used some pinging app to listen for the iPads. They followed the noise to find them buried by our porch. They had disabled the GPS on one of them and deleted all of her apps and everything but didn't have time to do that to the second iPad, which is probably why they ditched them to come back for them later.
I got a picture of the police dusting for fingerprints from our upstairs window
On Sunday the woman who had been robbed came over to our house. Apparently they think it's a bunch of teenagers who live in the area because they have broken in to two or three houses on that street multiple times. Their alarm systems usually go off a few minutes after they have left the home. Although they found her and her husband's iPads, her jewelry is gone.


Caleb Updates:  Week 15

Caleb laughed his first real laugh! He has laughed in his sleep a lot but this time was because he thought Dad was being funny.

He talking more and more. Here's a long video of him talking and a shorter one.

He is a very distracted eater... while eating, he looks at the designs on my shirt, pulls the strings on my hoodies, turns to look at anyone who is talking. Because he plays so much while eating, sometimes I can't tell when he's full. Even though I know he can't really understand and can't answer me, I tell him, "If you're not done yet, then you need to keep eating." In response, he fakes like he is going to eat for a second, but before latching on, he turns his head and gives me a big smile. After two or three times of that, I have usually decided he's finished. Even with his playing, Caleb has cut his eating time from 45 minutes to 20-30 minutes! Yippee!

Sometimes when he is eating, his little hand and fingers find their way directly into my bare armpit... it tickles so badly!!! But now he has started to laugh with me when I laugh and I love it.
Sitting in Mom's chair
My legs are blurry in every picture because I'm always moving them.
Example of the constant crunch... Even when trying to sit in a chair, his legs are lifted
The past couple of times he has fallen asleep in his carseat, he has slumped over forward because he does a constant crunch against the restraining belt things.

He has developed a whimper cry that he does when he eats or sucks on his pacifier.

This week he was sick and I had to use the bulb syringe to clear his nose, but after I did it one or two times, he started breathing in through his nose every time I would try to suck it out! This was counter-productive.

The most effective nose-clearing we had this week was when he spit up out of his nose... haha! He was sucking on my finger and didn't break the suction when he spit up and we were both surprised as two streams of spit up came running out of his nose.

Caleb likes to kick his toys.

Caleb still loves his bath but now relaxes more than splashing sometimes. His bathtub has a little ledge-ish thing that hold him from sliding down too deep but he has started to do hip thrusts to lift his bum up and over the ledge so he can slouch in the bath. This means Mom has to always be ready to catch him because his head will go all the way under when he does his little hip thrust. I'm not sure how slouching like that is comfortable because the ledge then digs into his lower back... but he likes it!

Caleb started sleeping with his monkey/blanky/lovey. It's great because he can pull the monkey's face to his mouth easily to suck on and it's soft so he likes to run his fingers over it. He is great at pulling his binky out of his mouth but hasn't figured out how to get it back in again yet.
Caleb loves looking at the pictures in books!

He touches each page.

For the first time ever, Caleb took two naps in his crib in one day. That was awesome. I loved it.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Caleb is THREE MONTHS OLD!

Week 14 (January 9th-15th, 2012)
Caleb has never liked cuddling up on us or burping like this. He almost always pulls away to try to look at what is going on. Recently, he has started cuddling on his Daddy and it's really cute.
Caleb has what looks like a rat-tail. All of the dark hair he was born with has fallen out, except for a patch below the MegaMind-like back of his head (aka the Adams' shelf). He has blonde hair that doesn't show up in the pictures.

After a record-breaking drought this summer, we have had a wet winter. Allen called on Monday evening to tell me downtown Houston was flooded and the freeways were closed so he would be getting home late.
Monday, January 9th
Tuesday, January 10th Caleb turned three months old!

It's funny that it has only be three months because life without him seems so long ago. To celebrate, he and I went to the lactation center at the hospital to see how much he weighs with their good scale. 12 lbs 6 oz and he might be around 25 inches long . . . I'm not very good at getting an accurate measurement by myself and keep forgetting to have Allen help.

I weighed him before and after he ate because I'm a worrier and wasn't sure if he was getting enough to eat. He has always had plenty of wet/dirty diapers every day but he's still so skinny and when I pumped I was hardly getting anything! It turns out that he is getting plenty to eat from me and it was the pump that was the issue. I bought a new pump, just a manual Medela one and I get way more much faster than with my old Playtex pump.
Caleb and Dad having some chill time after Dad got home from work... I love them!

He is perfecting his yell/talk/scream/squeal.

Caleb is learning how to grab toys on his own, which is great because he can entertain himself in the back of the car much better.

One of my favorite things is that he grabs my arm when I change him! It's so cute.
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He grabs it (and eats it sometimes). He also does this scissor thing with his legs where he traps my right arm between his legs. Also very cute but I have yet to get a picture of that.

We've gotten Caleb to go to sleep between 6:30 and 7:30 pm most nights and it's nice to have some Nikki and Allen time while he sleeps for those first two or three hours of the night. Then as Caleb wakes up during the night, Allen has been helping me a lot! I get up to feed him and he has been getting up to calm him down every other time he wakes up.
I love playing with this little boy every day!

Here is Allen doing the little white rabbit to Caleb and he loves it!

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Week 13 (January 2nd-8th, 2012)

Caleb chews on his fists and sometimes extends his fingers while his fists are in his mouth and gags himself.
He will actually chew on anything he can get in his mouth . . . his hand, his arm, Mom's hand, Dad's hand, toys . . . but he can't figure out how to get the pacifier in there on his own yet

We have a rubber ducky we sit in the bathtub with him. He watches the rubber ducky float around and when the moment is right, he attacks! He kicks the duck as hard as he can with both feet and only stops when he has it trapped up against the side of the bath.

He got a swing for Christmas from Grandma and Grandpa and he loves it.

When I put him in his car seat on the kitchen floor, he kicks his legs so hard that he rocks back and forth.

His favorite position is to hold a constant crunch (amazing abs).

He finally started to grab for toys with his hands instead of just kicking them.

He doesn't sleep on walks/jogs, instead he stares at all of the trees as they go by (sometimes faster than others).

He yell/talks on his whole breath out and only stops to breathe in.

He has moved up to size 2 diapers. He didn't outgrow size one really . . . we still had to cinch the diaper strap things so that they overlapped, he just started filling up the size 1 diapers too quickly, leading to too many explosions. (Thanks to the generosity of many friends, we have plenty of size 1 diapers to hold onto for baby number two.)

We've had gorgeous weather and bought new tools (lawnmower, rake, gloves, shovel) so we have been out doing yard work and have actually met some neighbors!

Exercising feels much more normal than it has since I got pregnant! I've exercised every day this week and it feels great. Allen pushed the stroller on our jog on Friday evening and I ran two sub-11 minute miles without stopping and it felt great! I never thought that it would excite me to be able to run two consecutive miles, unless they were both under 6 minutes. . . oh, motherhood, you have taught me to appreciate so much already!

This week we started having more of a nap and bedtime schedule to try to prevent Caleb from being overtired and hopefully sleep better.